You’re gonna think this is off topic. Hang with me, I promise this is a “typical Hearing Elmo” post.
I’m turning in my “Christian” card.
I’ve been so aggravated with “Christians” over the past month, that I decided to shred my “card”. Being a “card carrying Christian” doesn’t mean anything anyway.
It matters how you live and Who you put your faith in… at least that is what I believe. Sometimes I get extremely annoyed on FaceBook. But…
I stay because the disABILITY community is alive and well, thriving and connecting on FaceBook. In the last month, however, I have seen folks post a couple of things in the name of God, that made me shred my card. Carrying a card doesn’t mean squat. I’m going to live what I believe and ignore some folks that choose to make the “real deal” look bad.
1. The suicide/death of Robin Williams
Some things I actually saw posted:
“Shame on Robin Williams for causing such grief and forcing his family to shoulder this for the rest of their lives. No way is he in Heaven”.
“A Christian cannot commit suicide. It keeps them from Heaven. Guess we know where Robin Williams is”
“It’s is so sad he (Robin Williams) didn’t get help for his depression. Had he known God, that would have helped”
“Disgusts me! Suck it up and be a man. Seriously, the coward’s way out”.
All these from folks who regularly post things making it clear their faith-based beliefs. Yet this erases all of that in my opinion. They only show their stupidity (I mean… try doing some real research on what clinical depression is, would ya?) and judgmental attitudes. Yeah. That will win others to Christ.
2. The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge
Some people who have made it clear what “card” they carry when it comes to personal beliefs and faith, reported that they could not accept the challenge because ALS research conducts stem-cell research. It doesn’t seem to matter that stem-cells can be harvested from a number of different procedures – only one that is from embryos. Couples with frozen embryos can:
- simply discard the embryos
- can store the embryos indefinitely at their own expense
- can give the embryos to other infertile couples. (More information about that option is available through the RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association)
- can donate the embryos to general research or stem cell research (CIRM, 2014).
Stem cells can also come from adults, however, and umbilical cords of newborns. Scientists and researchers have even learned to induce pluripotent stem cells – alter adult stem cells to have the properties of embryonic stem cells (Mayo, 2014). But wait, let me guess. You have issues with genetic research, too?
Let’s say stem cell research goes against your personal beliefs and world views. So you do not support infertile couples seeking help in order to conceive? So if stem cell research is done and embryos are used… and a cure or viable treatment is found for diagnosis such as: spinal cord injuries, type 1 diabetes, Parkinson’s disease, Alzheimer’s disease, heart disease, stroke, burns, cancer, osteoarthritis, and ALS (Mayo, 2014), you would not participate in this treatment or cure if diagnosed with one of these, right? Or, if someone you love is diagnosed with one of these debilitating diseases you will let them suffer? Do you know how many relatives I have that would not be alive if not for diabetes/insulin research?
ok… I will calm down. After all, you are allowed your opinions and biases. This IS (still) a free country. But I don’t have to buy into that, nor drink your proffered kool-aid. I read some posts about rejecting the ALS Ice Bucket challenge that made me weep.
I mean I cried buckets (though not ice buckets).
Because people who have this disease or love someone who does may have seen your post. And heard your excuses.
Hey. Most of us have limited incomes and must choose what we do with our discretionary monies. There are only a handful of places I give to each year because they are causes and non-profits that I am passionate and convicted about. If you choose not to accept the “challenge” that is your choice. Maybe say, “sorry, I give to other foundations/charities but I salute those of you who are giving to ALS”. Just please don’t make excuses about why you aren’t going to give to the ALS foundation and say it is because of the “card” you carry. Worse… explain that you are going to give your donation directly to a patient with ALS instead of the evil foundation. Because that person wants your money and not a cure.
Who Am I – by Association?
So all of this has made me think. (Can ya tell? LOL) Some of my associations I am very proud of and gain physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual benefit from participating. Others make me keep my distance though. I may even shred my “card”. It doesn’t change who I am – merely my associations. I am a person of faith, but I want to be transparent, compassionate, and a friend who makes a difference.
What are your associations? (Other than those that are faith-based)
I am associated with groups who have bionic hearing. I have a cochlear implant. Sometimes we disagree on “best company” or hearing health strategies, but we don’t judge or behave holier-than-thou. We agree to disagree when needed.
I am associated with groups with vestibular disorders. There are SO MANY different specific diagnosis that are vestibular disorders. Meniere’s disease is a fickle pickle. Few have exactly the same symptoms and triggers, and what program works for one may not do anything for another. However, we work hard to accept that “whatever works” for each sufferer.
I am associated with groups who advocate for the rights of those with service animals. Fidos For Freedom, Inc., radically changed the course of my life. I don’t agree with all training practices and at times am rubbed wrong by certain personalities. However, I proudly wear the mantle of service dog “mom”.
Yet at some point in my life I had to dis-associate with the culturally Deaf. My reasons are a long story, but it is my story and I shoulder the responsibility of that choice.
I chose to dis-associate with my undergrad alumni. Again a long story, but one I stand by.
I chose to dis-associate with people who don’t like Greek yogurt. They can’t be trusted.
These are my choices, and YES. I “get” that you have the choice to “dis” Robin Williams, individuals who took their own life, and depressed people who have lost hope. I respect your choice. Doesn’t mean I can and will choose to associate with you. I understand that your conscious will not let you give (one time or regularly) or support (by posting a video and challenging others) the ALS Foundation. But if you choose to voice that opinion and choice in such a way that it harms others, I don’t have to associate with you.
There are numerous organizations in our great country that I do NOT support because of ethical concerns and personal choice. But you will never see me posting things in a public venue something that may cause harm to someone else – even peripherally. I have the freedom to express my opinion one-on-one to close friends and my husband. Believe me… I do this regularly when my ability to cope with those who hate Greek yogurt overwhelms me.
Y’all? Go be nice to others. 🙂
© 2014 Personal Hearing Loss Journal
CIRM. (2014). Myths and misconceptions about stem cell research. Retrieved September 2, 2014, from http://www.cirm.ca.gov/our-progress/myths-and-misconceptions-about-stem-cell-research
Mayo Clinic. (2014). Stem cells: What they are and what they do. Retrieved September 2, 2014, from http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/stem-cell-transplant/in-depth/stem-cells/art-20048117
6 thoughts on “By Association…”
Awesome!!! One of the best articles written to date. I pretty much turned in my Christian card months ago…if not years. I believe in what Sam Spritzer believes in. Anything else, I’ll take under advisement.
AMEN, SISTER! 😉
I too was outraged at some people’s comments upon learning of Robin Williams suicide. ( Most coming from Christians …of which, I do consider myself part of this group). I would never speak such thoughtless and cruel remarks, as I have seen about his choice. He has family members that are truly grieving and heartbroken, and people are saying he got what he deserves??? Ugh. Some people believe he made a deal with the devil a long time ago for that fortune and fame. Disgusts me when Christians JUDGE other people.
I always saw a sadness in his eyes, behind that beautiful smile and glorious laughter. He was a gentle and tender soul, suffering from depression, like me. Let those perfectly healthy people judge others… “Us” people with hearing disabilities and serious diseases, are too busy battling our bodies and real everyday problems.
Robin Williams brought joy to millions. Thankfully, he will continue to do so in the future, from all the talented work he left behind for us to treasure. God Bless his beautiful soul.. And you, Denise! I’ve had all the same thoughts as you lately. You always make me laugh, and keep me thinking about your words… Sometimes for days! Keep up your good work, my friend! We need your voice. ~ Tari … AKA Sugar Luvs Puppies….
Well said, Sugar! I think Robin suffered for years. I try to be sensitive to what is really in the eyes of those I meet. Hugs! Love ya muchly Menieres buddy!
Again, thoughtful words and ideas to read and consider. Thanks for sharing, Denise.
*nods in agreement while reading post*
that’s the biggest thing right there…”be nice to others” It just doesn’t seem to happen enough. Simply Be Nice. I posted on Facebook recently that “Be kind to one another, Even if you don’t agree.” I was surprised by the people who “liked” it, because they aren’t all people who do this.
Just be kind…that’s all. Respect, would be nice.
on a side note…I don’t know how you have time to do all the things you do! 🙂