
1. I’ve had people with cochlear implants before ask me why I don’t just use a cochlear implant. One (or two) works for them after all!
2. I’ve had people with hearing aids ask me why I choose to get a cochlear implant in my “worse” ear.
3. I’ve had folks with CI’s and HA’s ask me why I use assistive devices in the classroom if I am “hearing again” so well.
4. I’ve had people with cochlear implants ask me why I need a hearing assistance dog if I’m hearing so well now.
5. I’ve had people who were culturally Deaf ask me why I don’t just use ASL since I am proficient in the language.
6. I’ve had people who were late-deafened ask me why I do not just continue to speech read. Why embrace technology?
Overkill?
These are all legitimate questions. I will do my best to answer them.
1. I’ve had people with cochlear implants before ask me why I don’t just use a cochlear implant. One (or two) works for them after all! Not everyone who qualifies for a cochlear implant can go bilateral. I have Meniere’s disease and I barely squeaked by in pre-surgical balance testing to be a unilateral candidate. I use a hearing aid in the opposite ear because – well, because my audiologist told me too! My audiograms and testing each year astonish my audiologist at Johns Hopkins. Who would have thought I could hear this well? However, the proof is clear. I gain an extra 3-7% when I use a hearing aid in my unimplanted ear.
2. I’ve had people with hearing aids ask me why I choose to get a cochlear implant in my “worse” ear. I chose to get a cochlear implant because with the best BTE hearing aids available, I could no longer hear well enough to carry on a normal conversation. I learned all I could about cochlear implants and took the “plunge” in April of 2005. I’ve never regretted it. A comparison of my audiograms can be found at this post: CLICK HERE.
3. I’ve had folks with CI’s and HA’s ask me why I use assistive devices in the classroom if I am “hearing again” so well. I hear great in “most” indoor environments. I even hear outside fairly well if there is not a lot of competing noise. But let’s face it. Listening environments are not the same. Some rooms are huge with cathedral ceilings. Some have all hard surfaces. I use assistive devices because it helps to eliminate one of my greatest enemies. NOISE. Isn’t it funny that as a “hearing again” person, noise interferes with my hearing well? My favorite device as a teacher is my clipboard. You can read about it at this post: CLICK HERE.
4. I’ve had people with cochlear implants ask me why I need a hearing assistance dog if I’m hearing so well now. This is probably the number one question I receive in person, from readers on Hearing Elmo, through FaceBook, and through email. My hearing assistance dog from Fidos For Freedom gives me something that my cochlear implant and hearing aid do not. Independence. When I trained to be matched with a service dog, I was not only learning the commands, but also learning to watch my dog – and to trust my dog. I needed that training! I am confident in knowing that if I do not hear something, my hearing assistance dog will let me know. This may mean becoming aware that a car is coming up behind me in the parking lot. It may mean that I will know before rounding the end cap, that there is a noisy family on the next aisle. I know if I drop things. I know if intercoms are giving announcements. I know about alarms going off. I know when people are saying “excuse me” so that they can get past, and much, much more. I feel safe. I feel confident. I am independent. I didn’t feel those same things when only utilizing a CI and HA. (Besides with my balance issues, Chloe has become just as necessary to me because of her balance work).
5. I’ve had people who were culturally Deaf ask me why I don’t just use ASL since I am proficient in the language. Bottom line? I am not culturally Deaf. I was not born with hearing loss. Everyone close to me has normal hearing. Don’t misunderstand. I love ASL and have been teaching the language for over twelve years. I actually rely on sign at home if I’ve taken my ears out (as well as speech reading). However, I was born into this world with ears that hear. It made sense (to me) that when I began losing my hearing that I fight to regain as much of that as I was able to do. I do not criticize those who embrace their deafness. I love the culturally Deaf and have learned how to advocate in a positive way from Deaf friends. But… I’m not Deaf. I am a person with hearing loss who is “hearing again”.
6. I’ve had people who were late-deafened ask me why I do not just continue to speech read. Why embrace technology? Speech reading (or lip reading) is not an exact science. Don’t believe me? Try it sometime. Get a friend or family member to voice some simple sentences with their volume “OFF”. Can you accurately pick up what they are saying?
According to the CDC (2012), a good speech reader will be accurate 4 to 5 words in a sentence of 12 or more words. I have news for you. 33-50% by the BEST, means they are not communicating well. Even for those who are terrific at understanding “in context”, will still be asking for repeats or clarification (or sit there “lost”). I still speech read some. It is only an additional tool to help me communicate at my best, however.
Use It All!
So. Is the way I’ve chosen to stay connected, to communicate, and to hear the world around me overkill? Perhaps to some it is. However, these choices have helped me to cope, to interact, and to be a confident “hearing again” adult responsible for my own communication. If you are a person with hearing loss, you have chosen your own path, too. I respect that! I am grateful to be living in an age where so many options are available to people with hearing loss. Decide how you want to engage the world around you – and then OWN IT.
Do you use additional things to hear at your very best? Please feel free to share those options by commenting on this post.
Happy hearing!
Denise Portis
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Center for Disease Control. (2012). Hearing loss in children: Learning language. Retrieved April 20, 2012, from http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/hearingloss/language.html
One of my biggest pet peeves is being asked by someone with hearing, why I don’t just turn my hearing aids up if I’m having trouble hearing. Or similarly, asking me if I am wearing my hearing aids, as if they have to make some kind of statement that I am failing my duty to be a responsible hearing aid wearer. Just grates every fiber of my being.
Love this post! My biggest ‘pet peeves’ (if you could call them that) are people with CIs who act shocked that I don’t really use the phone and don’t do well with it. If I use a phone (very rarely) I only use a captioned phone. I don’t like the fact that my phone experience is not consistent, and I get too nervous since most of the time I end up not being able to hear well. I personally hate the phone anyway (I always have) and it was not my goal to be on the phone all the time, so it doesn’t bother me. But I do find that I end up defending myself fairly often re: phone use.
Also, people expect that my hearing is perfect with my CIs and I no longer need captions for TV and movies. Totally not the case — I still need captions for anything where I can’t see a face to lipread along with hearing (TV, movies, PHONE!)
I still use captions as well so I totally understand your frustration in having to defend that! Captions take the pressure off which allows me to enjoy movies and/or tv without any tension.
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Keep being bold in doing what works for you. Most people are not unkind–simply ignorant. Educate them, then ignore those who won’t be educated. A blind or lame person would not be criticized for using every possible technology and aid. As Rush said recently, deafness is the only disability that is seen as “your fault” (like when people tell you to just focus or listen better–as if you aren’t already doing your best.)
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